We did Father's Day today instead of tomorrow initially because of a better weather forecast and less crowds. The plan was Prospect Park and dinner at French Louie in Brooklyn, but considering it started pouring around noon (we were going to meet at Prospect Park at 2), we ended up at my apartment on the UES instead.
It's a nice reminder that my parents and I basically get along pretty well. We talked in my apartment until the rain let up around 2:30, went to the Hungarian cafe around the corner for lunch and dessert, and then to Carl Schurz yet again since it's such a pleasant little park. We can hang out for hours and have a good time, something that I've worked very hard at making all of us comfortable with over the past years and particularly in the past six months.
There are things in our relationship that are taking time to heal, primarily my deception about drinking, but I feel like they're trusting me more, and only by giving them proof can they believe me again. It will take quite a while, but we all understand that and I have to remind myself that it is probably the most important relationship to mend. Tell them I love them, be honest, and continue spending as much time as possible to show as well as tell that I'm making progress.
Most of all I know how lucky I am to have this time to repair our relationships while they're still healthy, although slowing down a bit. We're planning a European river cruise for next year, something we've talked about for over three years, and I know that this will be a fabulous experience not to be forgotten. The cruise is perfect since it's not hauling luggage every night, and excursions will be frequent but not insurmountable even for relatively elderly people. The last time my parents were in Europe was in the late 1960s as separate, single people, so it'll be revisiting their youth; I hope that ability to reminiscence while experiencing it as older adults with grown children will be one of the best parts for them.
For me it was a happy Father's Day, far more organic than expected but reinforcing that I do love them both immensely, and that I certainly hope to have many more years enjoying their company and our mutual interests.
I love you Dad, respect you in so many ways, and have for most of my life. Just do me a favor and look at the brochures so we can get started planning for Europe!
It's a nice reminder that my parents and I basically get along pretty well. We talked in my apartment until the rain let up around 2:30, went to the Hungarian cafe around the corner for lunch and dessert, and then to Carl Schurz yet again since it's such a pleasant little park. We can hang out for hours and have a good time, something that I've worked very hard at making all of us comfortable with over the past years and particularly in the past six months.
There are things in our relationship that are taking time to heal, primarily my deception about drinking, but I feel like they're trusting me more, and only by giving them proof can they believe me again. It will take quite a while, but we all understand that and I have to remind myself that it is probably the most important relationship to mend. Tell them I love them, be honest, and continue spending as much time as possible to show as well as tell that I'm making progress.
Most of all I know how lucky I am to have this time to repair our relationships while they're still healthy, although slowing down a bit. We're planning a European river cruise for next year, something we've talked about for over three years, and I know that this will be a fabulous experience not to be forgotten. The cruise is perfect since it's not hauling luggage every night, and excursions will be frequent but not insurmountable even for relatively elderly people. The last time my parents were in Europe was in the late 1960s as separate, single people, so it'll be revisiting their youth; I hope that ability to reminiscence while experiencing it as older adults with grown children will be one of the best parts for them.
For me it was a happy Father's Day, far more organic than expected but reinforcing that I do love them both immensely, and that I certainly hope to have many more years enjoying their company and our mutual interests.
I love you Dad, respect you in so many ways, and have for most of my life. Just do me a favor and look at the brochures so we can get started planning for Europe!
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