And my cousin with cirrhosis strikes again, picking another fight with one of his brothers. At this point he is so volatile that I know his brother doesn't want his daughter or his new girlfriend around him. Hell, I don't want to be around him since he will flip out on anyone at a moment's notice, or just for because he perceived a slight against him.

For my late birthday party we just flat out told him he was not invited, and to his credit he took it pretty well. I think he just has gotten used to doing or saying whatever he wants and never being told no or that it is completely inappropriate and there will be consequences. Unfortunately, my 91 year old uncle is living with him and the house is in my cousin's name, while my uncle is determined to die there and not have to move into assisted living or a nursing home.

God that side of my family is hugely fucked up, but a lot of it came from decades of unhealthy dynamics. They're an argument for you may be done with the past, but the past is not done with you. *sigh*

So that's two out of three years for my past uncle's birthday where my cousin's totally blown up any possible celebration. At this point it's almost an inevitability since it's too late to teach him to behave. All I know is that after my uncle passes, I probably won't be seeing him ever again. I have enough issues of my own.