I feel guilty that I'm not helping more with my aunt, but then I remind myself that I'm working full time. My sister's contract has ended at her job so she's now unemployed again, and not only that, she has used:

1) Moving from Pittsburgh to NYC (back in 2007) and storing boxes in my aunt's basement from Los Angeles (back in 2005) which are still there since she never moved anything out.

2) Having lived there temporarily when she started her job in NYC and still taking up closet space (also since 2007) and never doing anything about it.

3) Leaving a shit ton of stuff there including expired supplements, etc to the point where mice came into my aunt's place to eat some of it and she was so grossed out by it she did, well, nothing except make my aunt hire an exterminator and refuse to deal with it.

She has shown no sign of going back to help despite my aunt's definite need. I can't unless I relocate my computers etc so I can work from there which I will do if I have to, but she should do SOMETHING at some point.

I also know she won't. She will put it on my parents and won't realize that she owes anything, or take responsibility. Because she hasn't in about 12 years, ever since she had curable breast cancer, and there has been no consequences since no one calls her to task. When I've tried, years ago, I was attacked by my mom for making her cry, which is always her out. Never mind that I have sacrificed more, and almost died more times, and moved forward nonetheless, but hey, I'm sort of ok with that. Because I have to be, and I know that it hurts but I can take it. It's what I do.

What I need is to see her step up for a change and help where she can, even if it crimps her style of doing what she wants when she wants. It's not about you, it's about what you can do to help those who have helped you over the years. I'm still fucking angry about it since it's always been this way though. Why is my suffering worth less than hers? I've never had an answer to that, and probably never will.