And somehow despite my not being involved at all there are fractions in the Discord group which I've been tangentially related to, but have been most involved as friends for the two feuding. I don't know what to do except let each know that while I'm there for them I'm not taking sides.

I wish someone had given that consideration for me back in 2005, but that time has passed, and without knowing exactly went down I can't weigh sides. And I don't want to harm either the way that I was hurt when it happened for me. Friendships are wonderful when they work, but as we age, we are damaged in more ways and it is difficult to walk that balance. 

Most of what I'm taking away is that we are all imperfect humans who need some grace, and that we need to work on being kinder to each other. I miss the random kindness of NYC, but maybe I can make it up with being kind to those who I know online and hope they can resolve it.